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OK! Here's all the information I've been holding back on sharing.

I am six weeks pregnant, but I'm having complications. Those who have known me a long time will recall my previous miscarriages. I think it is very important to talk about these things when they happen. It is so common (about a quarter of all diagnosed pregnancies), yet we keep quiet about it. Part of this is instinctive. When you lose a pregnancy, you just want to shut up within yourself and mourn. We isolate ... . Many of us will go through miscarriage unsupported, because we never told anyone we were pregnant in the first place, in order to avoid the pain and disappointment if things don't go right. Well, I don't want to go through this alone. It feels so lonely no matter what. I'm really regretting right now I didn't yell it from the tree tops as soon as I knew I was pregnant. Things haven't felt quite right all along, and I was scared to share good news that might only turn sour. A mistake, for me, which I shall now rectify.

Current status: I had heavy bleeding and clotting over the weekend. Ultrasound still shows the sack intact and normal development, but no heartbeat (might just be too early). So now I am on bedrest and taking progesterone to hopefully maintain the pregnancy. But I feel awful. Everything hurts. And I am so scared. Scared of doing something wrong. Scared of potential bad news. Scared to get attached. Scared to let myself be excited. And while my husband and daughter and being very supportive and taking good care of me, I still feel so isolated. My normal coping mechanism for everything life throws at me - yoga - is largely off limits. At least I can still meditate. Thank goodness for that!

My recollections from the past tell me that while family members can be really hard to talk to about such things (they are too emotionally involved, I find, to be truly comforting), online friends, most whom I've never met in real life, provided the best comfort I received. Their stories of overcoming similar issues, their encouragement, and their support were instrumental to my moving on and healing. I won't mention specific names, but I hope those of you who were so supportive know how much it meant to me. So I'm asking for help again. Good wishes, healing vibrations, prayers, and just the knowledge that so many wonderful people out there care - it all helps so much. Hopefully, I will have good news to share in a few weeks, but if not, I know the Janeites have got my back. Who could ask for better cheerleaders? Much love and gratitude to you all. royal and nave blue color collections for cocktail